How to Let Go of Clothes You No Longer Love

I have a navy Badgley Mischka evening gown that I found on sale at the Bop store in Madison, WI (the now-closed brick and mortar location of @shopbop, before they went fully online). It was during their summer clearance, and the dress was marked down from $880 to $200. I put it on and it fit like a glove.

I had recently moved from Philadelphia, where I went to a couple of black tie events every winter. The cap sleeved navy dress was a little conservative for my taste, but I could almost spend that much on a rental, and how handy would it be to have a go-to gown in my closet?!

Forgetting that I didn’t have events to go to in Madison, I bit my lip and bought it. I wore it once in 5 years.

And oddly, despite being a “deal”, I’ve always felt guilty about how much I spent on it. In the store, it felt glamorous and fortuitous; at the event, it felt a little boring and covered up. I could have rented something more interesting for less.

I also didn’t realize how much my tastes and overall trends would change in 5 years – a 25 year old in Philly in 2013 wears a lot more Lilly Pulitzer and cheap office attire than a 30 year old in Madison, who prefers flannel dresses and as few pants as possible, and a 30 year old in New York, who lives in slip dresses and sneakers. Even when all of these people are me.

What about you? Do you have something you overpaid for that you want to get rid of? It’s not getting worn and it makes you feel bad about yourself. If it’s not bringing you joy and it isn’t useful, it’s time for it to go!!

Do you feel bad about the money? Let’s pretend someone walked in right now and starting slapping twenties on the table, offering to buy your version of my basic Badgley Mischka. (What IS the garment plaguing you?? Is it a pair of clear stilettos? Is it your prom dress? Is it a pair of jeans you overpaid for?) How much would they have to offer for you to say “Sure! Take it!”?

Then take some photos of the garment and list it on Poshmark or eBay for that amount plus 10%. (Poshmark takes a fee, and you might want to be able to offer a discount to potential buyers to incentivize them.) Even if it doesn’t sell right away, you may find that you get used to the idea of letting it go, and you are willing to accept a lower price. If it doesn’t sell even with discounts, you can try consigning the item or rehoming it with a friend. Or you may realize that you aren’t ready to part with it!! There have been a couple of times that I’ve listed something on Poshmark, only to realize I can’t let it go yet.

And while you’re on Poshmark, why not wander over to my page? I have a great Badgley Mischka for sale. 😉